I strongly feel that you need to look closely and find out if you are the one in control of your life or it’s the other way out. When I look around, I see that most people live a life that is under the control of others and not in their own hands. For instance, I see that the life of many working professionals is under the control of their boss. In this digital age, it is also quite possible that your life is controlled by your social media accounts, followers and so called friends.
I think that when you are letting someone else get control of your life, you are also losing control over how you use your own time and energy. You’ll never be able to find what it means to be truly happy and free in life if you continue doing so. In the beginning, you will feel a sense of dissatisfaction in whatever you do under the control of others. Later, it will become a cause of your mental distress.
How to Take Back Control of Your Life
You need to start take small steps to take back control over your life. For instance, try learning how to say “no” to things you don’t believe in. You should practice saying “no” to things you don’t wish to commit to. I feel that if you still commit to a task that you don’t wish to be a part of, it will definitely bring down your performance.
Change Your Definition of Success & Failure
Another thing that can help give back control over your life according to me is your own perspective on success and failure. You seriously need to break away from the stereotypical definitions of success and failure. You must find meaning in your personal growth and individual journey. “Most of the time, we are afraid of failing because of our own preconceived notions about a certain situation or challenge”. Somehow, we develop a fixed perception about the idea of success and failures. So, each time something doesn’t go as you had planned or imagined you think to have failed in your attempts. Whereas;
“In the truest sense of the word, success is less about what you achieve and more about what you learn as a person”Punit Dhawan